Healing Comes To The Broken Places First
I had a friend that had a hat that said that, "healing comes to the broken places first." I always thought it was a cool saying. It's taken me a long time to really begin to grasp the magnitude of that statement.
Two years ago today one of the greatest tragedies of my life occurred. My mom suddenly passed away. My mom was in great shape and very healthy, played piano at church every Sunday up to that day. In fact, that night she had gone and had dinner and went to a movie with her small group, went to bed and never woke. My mom was a tough woman who had walked through a lot but to this day is one of the most godly women I've ever met. I wouldn't be where I am if it weren't for the hours on her knees for me. I believe with everything I am God simply said, "well done my good and faithful servant" and allowed her to quietly enter into His presence.
I miss her every day and there's a piece of me that will probably never be whole again this side of eternity but I'm so incredibly grateful for the legacy that is my mom.
John 16:33 says, " I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world." (ESV) Christ is telling us to be prepared for when pain comes. You're going to feel hurt, bad things are going to happen to good people. (Matthew 5:45) But what do we do when the trouble comes knocking?
First of all, we have to ALLOW OURSELVES TO FEEL. I wish I could say this is the only hard thing in my life I've ever walked through. During another significant life event involving my father I didn't allow myself to feel anger or hurt or anything really. Basic denial. Well eventually I felt something but it wasn't pretty. I had bottled up so much that when it came out, it came as an eruption. If you're dealing with something, allow yourself to feel it. Be in that moment. Don't try to cope or create false realities but simply feel. It's a natural part of the healing process.
Philippians 4:7 talks about a "peace that passes all understanding" or peace when it doesn't make sense to be peaceful. The peace comes from PRESSING INTO GOD during these times of trouble. We journey with God through our pain because peace often times is on the other side of pain. This unexplainable peace is only found in these times. Why else would you need it if your life wasn't crumbling around you? One of my favorite quotes ever is, "May you find the peace you need. And may you have the courage to go get it, even if it's on the other side of war." -Michael Cheshire. To have peace that passes all understanding we must press in and press on.
Lastly, but probably the most important thing in navigating pain is to TAKE OUR TOUGH QUESTIONS TO GOD, not to man. I think the simplest way to say this is, God's a big boy, you're not going to hurt Him. There are times in scripture, specifically in the Psalms, where David took his anger to God. I think the bigger picture here is we usually ask the wrong questions. I know after mom died I asked why a lot and I guess if I'm honest with myself I still do at times. That's normal though isn't it? We ask why something occurred. I think the question though should be what instead of why. Instead of saying why did this happen God, we should be asking What are you trying to teach me through this. Martin Luther said, "He whom God would use mightily, He wounds deeply." Everything is intended to make us more like Christ but only if we're willing to ask the right questions and journey with God toward His answers.
As I eluded to earlier, I've had other tough moments in my life. I've known pain at a very deep level. My story, however, is not one of tragedy or a sob story but one of redemption! My question for you is, what moments have caused you to ask why? Where have your beliefs been shaken because of events? The beautiful thing is God is not bound by time or space and desires to go back into those moments and make them right.
Healing comes to the broken places first...